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Sometimes I wonder why life is so hard for women. No, don’t get me wrong, I’m not indulging in a pity party here. Far from it actually. I’m just mulling over reality. The fact is more often than not women take on or rather have to take on more than they have bargained for. How? Well, read on.
A working woman has to cook for in-laws before leaving for work and after coming back from work even if she is exhausted doing so. She is not even allowed to keep a cook because who keeps a cook when the daughter-in-law is there, right? And if she dares keep a cook, the latter is rejected outright. Nonsense, I know. So she not only toils at work but at home too. She is the woman who doesn’t get the comfort she should at home. But she does it anyways. For whom? Well, because she loves her husband and does it solely for him. I wonder what would happen if it was the other way round? There are many like her. I have met at least a couple of women like her. And I hate that I keep meeting more and more like her.
More often than not women take on or rather have to take on more than they have bargained for.
Then there is the woman who needs to massage her mother-in-law’s legs at night, every night, even if she herself is not well or has had a bad day. She is the one who has to bear the burnt of her mother-in-law’s anger if she misses massaging her, especially on mother’s day. How does the son escape this, I simply don’t get it. Again, I have met her too.
Now think about it. The supreme court passes a judgement saying that a woman trying to keep her husband away from his parents is wrong. Alright, granted. But what about this? When a woman toils like an unpaid maid at home, doing all the chores for her husband’s kin while the husband doesn’t have to do any of it. Isn’t that wrong too? Forget social or religious norms, what about right or wrong as humans? Why do women have to alter their lives so much and even live with it day in and day out?
Or, let’s look at it in another way.
When was the last time you saw a man call his in-laws to ask about their health without being coaxed by his wife? When was the last time you saw a man prepare all the meals at home for his in-laws while managing things at work? When was the last time a man had to take care of his in-laws like he would his own parents? Well? Anyone? While there may be some and I know there are, the number is miserably low when compared to women. So, that’s why I wonder when did women sign off their time and health to doing more than they really should. When?
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What irks me is women do this? Is it the fear of clashes at home? But why? What’s the point if she is not happy in her own home? Why does she take on so much?
Why are women expected to do so much? Why?
It beats me. I don’t have a clue. Let me know if you do because, for the life of me, I can’t.