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How are you doing today? Exhausted? I know you probably are. Being a mom does that to you. Anyways. Thinking about what to cook for dinner? I’m too. Isn’t it an annoying thing to be concerned about? Or, are you having a bad day at work and need a drink but can’t since you have a toddler to take care of? Been there. Frustrating, I know. Or, annoyed at why your career had to be reset on becoming a mother but nothing of that sort ever happens to fathers? I hear you. Or, are you wondering why you can’t even think about rest after a hard day at work because there are tonnes of chores to be done at home too? Well, whatever it is you are feeling, sister, trust me, I know you are right in feeling so.
Being a woman isn’t easy but you know that already, don’t you? Now add motherhood to that mix and the combination reads ‘working and worrying nonstop till your very last breath’. Well, what can I say we just have to do the toughest jobs without even being appreciated on most days!
Whether you are a stay-at-home mother or a working mother, that is the reality. You have no wriggle room from the moment you wake up to the time you go to bed at night even with maids and cooks at your disposal. You are almost always overburdened. You don’t have the freedom to work late, take unscheduled meetings or fall sick. And that’s why I write this letter to all of you, working or not.
Because we all do so much more than we should, we need to stand together and for each other.
Truth is, I often come across posts on social media where one section berates the other. Very recently the wife of a Bollywood actor went on record saying something senseless about working mums. And it happens all the time. So many times that it got me thinking. While we are busy fighting amongst each other trying to prove which group of mums are better or who love their children more, did you notice what most fathers are doing? Or, rather, not doing? No? Well, let me tell you.
They are waking up when they want to. Some do wake up early but they don’t have to prepare and pack lunches. They don’t have to pack bags. And trust me, when you do it repeatedly every single day it tends to become really annoying. They still have their morning cups of tea and read their papers while women are always on a clock. They don’t have to give explanations at work for having to leave early or being unable to take late client calls. They know that their wives will have that covered, working or not. They can come back exhausted after work and watch television or sit with their phones. They don’t run after the children to feed them. They have the time to reset their energy levels before work the next day while we are always exhausted and overwhelmed with tasks.
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Of course, there are exceptions but they are just that, exceptions. While we are tied up in this infighting, dividing ourselves into two groups, most men are getting away without having to share the workload. They are paid more, are preferred more and they don’t juggle so many roles. Think about it.
A working woman comes home and takes care of all the household chores. She does that even before going out. So essentially she is working non-stop. A homemaker does the same but is judged for ‘staying at home’ as if she’s not doing anything. People don’t give due credit to her for the amount of work she does whole day to enable the smooth functioning of the household. Her contributions are hardly ever taken into account.
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So, the next time you want to find flaws in a homemaker or a working woman, stop and think about this. Think about how women do so much work and still have to fight for due credit, whether at home or at work.
Let’s stand together. And trust me when I say this, we are all working women whether we go out of the house to earn a living or not. A household cannot function without us. We are indispensable and therefore our fight should be to get equal distribution of chores, equal pay, against gender prejudice. It should not be a contest to pull another woman, who is probably just as exhausted as us, down.
What do you say? Are we in this together or not?