If we were having coffee, we would probably be sitting on my balcony with our feet propped up on the rails. Comforted by the afternoon sun, I would tell you how busy the past week has been. I would tell you how this week again began with a sleepless night. But nevermind that, every mother goes through her share of those, right? So, if we were having coffee I would tell you about a wonderful book that I recently read. The Help by Kathryn Stockett. What can I say, I think it has become one of my favourites now. The book is set in the 1960s in Jackson, Mississippi and gives a peek into the lives of African American maids. Tell you what, I just can’t stop thinking about it. I just can’t. The characters, the background and the writing. The book as a whole really. So, if we were having coffee, I would probably talk about it nonstop with you and share one of its quotes too with you, one which will stay with me for a long time.
“Wasn’t that the point of the book? For women to realize, We are just two people. Not that much separates us. Not nearly as much as I’d thought.”
Makes sense, doesn’t it?
Just a few weeks back I had written that women need to have each other’s backs because truly nothing much separates us. Working or not, mothers or not, married or not, we are basically the same. So, I would go on and on about this message in the book as half of my coffee probably gets cold.
I would then tell you about the man from work who advised me or rather directed me to manage my time better while reheating my coffee in the microwave. I would tell him how I have thought about the perfect retort to him at least a hundred times in two days. His exact words were expectation is you manage your time better and that too with an obnoxious look on his face. According to people like him working hard only means staying in the office for at least 10 hours every day. I would tell you how angry people like him make me.
I would also tell you ever since then the sight of men whiling away their time in office, having tea or smoking or heating lunchboxes prepared by the women in their lives makes me want to beat their heads together. Not that I’d do it. But their ignorance and apathy make me want to ask them something. If for a change they had to manage work and home both would they be able to stay at work for longer hours? If they had to do everything from packing lunch boxes for them, their wives and their kids to managing work, and everything in between would they be able to stay 10 to 12 hours in the office? Would they then tell me that I should manage my time better? No, they wouldn’t. Maybe my next #FeministMonday post should be on how men have it easy.
Most men have it easy because women take up the bulk of the work and sacrifice. #WorkingMom Click To Tweet
Most men have it easy because women take up the bulk of the work and sacrifice. And even after that, they have the gall to tell women like me to manage our time better. I would probably tell you how I hate such men, such people. And somehow I still keep running into them. Maybe it’s a sign from God to do something about it. But what?
If we were having coffee, ….well, look at that, our mugs are already empty. And I didn’t let you speak even once. My bad.
Shall we get refills while you fill me in on your week? Yes? Go on then.
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