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Last month in the middle of meetings and literally running against time to complete everything on my To-Do list for the day, I realised that it has been a year since I got back to work post my maternity leave. One year as a working mom. One year already. Hard to believe but I had survived. Unbelievably believable, if you ask me.
A year has passed since life became a bit more hectic than it was before. One year since I began juggling chores, deadlines and more. Well, much more than I used to juggle earlier. One year of balancing the role of a mother while being a working woman at the same time. One year living not only for my child but for my dreams as well. It has been a year since I donned the hat of a working mum. And as exhausting, stressful and demanding as it may have been, I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
It has been anything but easy in spite of the support system that I have. But there is this sense of accomplishment at the end of every day which I love. So, I think I do deserve a pat on my back for making it this far. Thousands of miles more to go but nevertheless. I know things haven’t been smooth at work but I still made it and that feeling is what gives me the strength to go on. Of course, there are bad days when I just want to hole up at home. But I haven’t given up yet and that’s reason enough to celebrate. I realise how important it is for me to acknowledge that myself. Self-compassion, after all, is essential to our well-being. So, good job, Naba!
As women, we generally forget to do that though we really must. We tend to downplay our accomplishments a lot. We always give credit to someone else or shy away from genuine praise. While it’s good to share credit, it’s completely wrong to brush our own hard work under the carpet. We need to be mindful of how much we do. And trust me, we do a lot. That’s why I decided to toast myself for making it through all those early mornings, long tiring days and exhausting nights. Raise a glass for being a mother, a woman, a working woman, a blogger and so much more. It’s not easy playing many roles, especially when the roles demand a lot of physical work apart from the mental workload.
I realise how important it is for me to acknowledge that myself. Self-compassion, after all, is essential to our well-being. So, good job, Naba!
It was a eureka moment. A moment when I was aware of how much I take on and do. Mindful, really. It is so important for mums, working or otherwise, to acknowledge just how much we do. Focus on the done list. Instead, what we tend to do is give ourselves a hard time for what we couldn’t without realising how much more we have done already. This kind of self-boost is good for it makes you feel good. And everybody knows it becomes a little easier to deal with life when we feel good about ourselves. Why wait for someone else to appreciate us? When we spare no time to be harsh on our mistakes, why hesitate in rewarding ourselves for all that we do?
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Truth be told, women do more than their fair share of work at home and at the office. We work tirelessly at all times. And often without any rewards or praise. It’s almost as if we are expected to be selfless, keep giving without being given even a kind word in return. Well, that’s wrong. That’s why every once in a while we need to make a list of all that we do and take care of. It helps. Trust me it helps.
Every day before going to bed I think about all that I have accomplished during the day. It may be something as trifling as dusting that neglected corner or adding one more paragraph to my work in progress but it’s an accomplishment none the less.
Tell me, are you mindful of all that you do every day and do you stop to appreciate yourself for that?